Archive for July, 2006
The DA is “sorry”. He’s sorry all right.
What do you people think? Should a mother be held responsible for her learning disabled son’s death when she left him alone with a dog she knew was aggressive and potentially dangerous–so much so that she had him bar the door to the basement where he stayed to block the dog? There was no bathroom down there, so the boy would have to deal with the dog if he had to go?
Interesting research, actually. Women are often the focus of fertility issues, but men are the cause of problems in 50% of the cases. Now, it looks like they are implicated in birth defects and miscarriages. Hmmmmm…….. So, if you want kids, get married younger and have kids sooner.
Suddenly, they’re kissing cousins. So many things make sense inside the beltway. So a weird bill bumping up minimum wage by $2 and eliminating estate taxes for all but the overwhelmingly rich just might get passed. Or not.
No you don’t. You need two incomes to get all the stuff you want. And that’s a fact. My thoughts moved to this topic while reading Betsy Newmark’s husband Craig’s post about all the junk kids take to college these days. They have lots of stuff. Lots and lots of stuff.
Their parents have stuff. Lots and lots of stuff. Why? Well these kids are the first generation who, as a whole, have both parents working. The younger boomers kids are going to college and taking all the stuff that was supposed to make up for the lack of time. It’s no wonder their dorm rooms are full. Their parents know no end of guilt and things.
Another thing: lots of these kids have a couple sets of parents eagerly outdoing each other in the “I’m the greatest parent” department. This competition nets the kids more anxiety, anti-anxiety medication and therapy, and yes, stuff. So they go to college with flatscreens and iPods and the latest cell phone, and still don’t know who to call when times get tough emotionally. Money? Money can be had. A listening ear? Well, that is fraught. Dad or Mom might find out that the other gets more phone calls.
This divorce and remarry thing also causes this: since marriages are hardly forever these days, women continue working “just in case”. It is wise to do this. A woman’s standard of living plunges when she gets divorced while the former husband’s goes up. But this, I think causes marriage problems, too. Both parents running around, the extra few minutes spent with the kids and then no time for each other….leads to long lunches with Bob or Barb in Sales. Which causes another divorce.
I am not saying that women working is wrong. I am saying that it is unrealistic to believe that there aren’t some relational trade-offs. I am saying that with no one putting the kids first except in superficial activities and things, teaches the kids that things matter more than people. I am saying that there is a connection with working to the bone for the best address, latest style “fill-in-the-blank” and nicest car. This behavior does take its toll.
I read a feminist article (can’t find the link) about how the trend of moms working isn’t going to change, the economics won’t let it. And so, the government must step in to help parents out. Oh yeah, that’s what we need. A whole segment of society hardly counts the costs of having a child as things are now. Can you imagine the results if childcare were heavily subsidized? And what in tarnation besides building bridges and roads, is the government all fired excellent at? Keep thinking.
While there are some families plugging away at minimum wages, both working, barely scraping by, etc., these same people have two car notes, a satellite dish and 500 Cable stations. Don’t forget the computers. Don’t forget the TVs in every room. Don’t forget the zillion DVDs. These people aren’t sitting around without heat and running water and playing cards with the extended family in candlelight ‘cuz they lack the resources. That’s poor.
What is needed these days is 1) reworked priorities 2) sucked up pride and 3) perspective. What is more important? Two brand-new cars or a mom or dad at home with the kids? What is more important? Looking as good as everyone else or living your own life? My husband drove the Chevy Cavalier we bought on our honeymoon to work at the Medical Building for three years. That old rattle-trap was/is a good car (we gave it to some people who needed a vehicle and they have it running good as new at 15 years old!). Couldn’t see taking on a car payment because it is embarrassing to be a doctor driving a hunk o’ junk. But that hunk allowed me to stay home with the kiddos. So you do what you have to. Most of us have it pretty good. Even less well-off folk do okay by the world’s standards. In addition, staying at home with the kid isn’t forever. Kids do grow up, go to school, move on and it happens faster than anyone believes possible. Sacrificing for a few years can make a huge difference later.
Sacrifice? Ha, ha, ha! What a quaint notion. Living at a level less than my neighbor? Why, that’s unthinkable. Going to college without the comforts of home. As if!
Kids are only doing what they see. They have learned their parent’s priorities very well and things rule.
Liposuction is one of the most dangerous, if not most dangerous cosmetic procedures with a doctor in a hospital who knows what he’s doing. If your neighbor suggests coming to his basement for a little touch-up, I would decline. AND RUN TO THE PHONE AND CALL THE COPS! What are people thinking?
Interesting. There are two women and two men. The women Ann Althouse (whom I read every day) and Megan McCardle (whom I’ve never heard of before. Check that, I have heard of her blog and read it on occasion–Asymetrical Information) introduced themselves with long, wordy posts. The men, Michael Totten (whom I read weekly) and Brannon Denning (whom I have never heard of before and couldn’t find a bloglink to) adapted to Glenn’s style–spare, pithy quote, link–even though, in Michael Totten’s case, anyway, he at least is more an essayist.
What gives? Is it a gender-driven style even in the written form? More words, more relational? Because while I honestly don’t have penis envy, this is one area where I really appreciate men. Economy of words. Minimal kvetching. Not long on background. (Not all men are this way, but since I’m generalizing here.)
Another theory: Or, are the men subbing for Glenn more socially adaptable? That is, are they aware that while their style is longer winded they know Glenn’s isn’t and want to appeal to Glenn’s readership by staying within the confines of his style? This would go against generally accepted gender norms, wouldn’t it? Women are more well-known for twisting into pretzels to make everyone comfortable.
In short, I like Glenn’s spare approach. Occasionally he’ll offer more rounded opinions, but most of the time he throws out one-line zingers that say what I tried to in five paragraphs. The best writers (I’m a huge Hemingway fan) seem very good at saying a lot without saying everything.
Instapundi guest bloggers–a living homage to gender studies.
Not that John Hawkins asked me, but (and this is shocking) I do have an opinion about this. My answer: John McCain. Why? Let me count the ways:
- He’s an egomaniacal, self-serving toad mascarading as an independent thinker.
- He believes conservatives are stupid.
- He will say and do just about anything to get a vote–he is Hillary Clinton’s mirror image.
- He can’t be trusted. Because he doesn’t trust the people.
- He’s vengeful and always seems just this side of stable. He makes me nervous.
- He thinks the press are his friends and will elect him.
There are more reasons that he is the worst person on the right. Basically, I feel that he has a general contempt for the common man. That grates. It seems to be a trait any life-long Senator possesses. He possesses this trait in spades.